Why we repeat the past

Previously on my web page i have talked about brain pathways. Many spiritual teachers explain the way to happiness is in the now(the present). With old brain patterns of anxiety and pain, mixed with confused expectations of the future, we are doomed to repeat our character defects over and over. If you notice you are attracting the same type of man it is probably because you are drawing him in using unconscious patterns from the past. You are probably ignoring red flags, making excuses for him/her, and justifying them as being different than the previous relationship. Without consciously bringing this to the surface, it will blindly and slowly lead you to make the same mistakes.. So what do we do?
We start by being true to ourselves. Meaning unconditioning old habits, and replacing them with healthy for sure thought patterns that we are not used too. For instance once you realize a character flaw in yourself and bring it to a conscious level, you can no longer manipulate yourself to do what you feel as unhealthy. judgemental ism is a great character defect to use as an example. Once you see yourself as Judging others to ease your own pain. Concentrate on every detail down to physical feeling of discomfort during the judgement. After realizing that you are judging out of your own feelings of inadequacy, you can no longer judge as easily. For your Judgements of others usually have to do with your unwillingness to perceive an once of a defect in ones self.
If we continue our lives without doing the head work necessary to ease your mind, you will stay very resentful. But almost magically, if you ex cert even a little energy working on your own happiness, you will begin to replace anxiety and hatred with love and appreciation.. Start small work on complimenting one person a day.. start today and within half the time you thought, you will be free from the cycles of pain life holds.