Why we repeat the past

Previously on my web page i have talked about brain pathways. Many spiritual teachers explain the way to happiness is in the now(the present). With old brain patterns of anxiety and pain, mixed with confused expectations of the future, we are doomed to repeat our character defects over and over. If you notice you are attracting the same type of man it is probably because you are drawing him in using unconscious patterns from the past. You are probably ignoring red flags, making excuses for him/her, and justifying them as being different than the previous relationship. Without consciously bringing this to the surface, it will blindly and slowly lead you to make the same mistakes.. So what do we do?
We start by being true to ourselves. Meaning unconditioning old habits, and replacing them with healthy for sure thought patterns that we are not used too. For instance once you realize a character flaw in yourself and bring it to a conscious level, you can no longer manipulate yourself to do what you feel as unhealthy. judgemental ism is a great character defect to use as an example. Once you see yourself as Judging others to ease your own pain. Concentrate on every detail down to physical feeling of discomfort during the judgement. After realizing that you are judging out of your own feelings of inadequacy, you can no longer judge as easily. For your Judgements of others usually have to do with your unwillingness to perceive an once of a defect in ones self.
If we continue our lives without doing the head work necessary to ease your mind, you will stay very resentful. But almost magically, if you ex cert even a little energy working on your own happiness, you will begin to replace anxiety and hatred with love and appreciation.. Start small work on complimenting one person a day.. start today and within half the time you thought, you will be free from the cycles of pain life holds.

Holiday Seasons Easy/hard---healthy balance

A total concious person will almost always rejoice and be grateful every holiday..For all they see is the glory of love, showing appreciation at all costs instead of resentment.. However one like myself and most of you become more deeply unconcious, concentrating on fears and anxieties at hand. Feelings of not being good enough for your family, missing past loved ones, and a void of support-either from family- or groups. By ourselves we can live life, but alone we can not be happy.. The Holiday seasons can be a reminder that we spend to much time involved with ourselves, and not enough time with others who love us.. For many loggs burn brighter and stronger when put together. But alone one log may only hold enough energy to hold its coal.
These other so called loggs dont have to be family, they can consist of many different groups that help one cope with any problem. I have about 3-4 close friends that I confide in, along with a very extensive family of enlightened individuals. I suggest we all use our friends and/or family for support. The key to any support group is loving people. With loving people to run your problems past, you will notice a feeling of strength. For one who loves you will never give you malicious advice.. One must be careful when using family members, because of popular use of malicious advice due to their own unconcious. Sometimes these people, who know no better, lead you in the wrong direction ever strengthening your ego. Which is counter productive in our path to enlightenment((true-happiness).
It has been a Hard Month for me. My concious levels have fluxuated from very consious(using love other centered) to severly unconcious(thoughts of hurting others).. Once this is brought to a level of communication all unconcious feelings are transmuted. I can see the patterns also by writing down my feelings, this also brings truth to my feelings.. Anything other than Love, Compassion, And tolerance, then become unacceptable. Let us see ourselves in eachother. Let all feelings of discomfort transmute to gratitude. For we are growing older and wiser with every nano-second.